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Why Empathic People Clam-up Around Fake People
Being a sensitive and empathetic person, I know that I, and people like me, can react strongly to our environment and see straight through people when they are putting up a front. What I need is real and meaningful relationships with other people. I do not feel comfortable at all with the so-called fake people. And I bet most empathic people like me don’t.
There are a couple of reasons why us empathic people clam-up around these fake people. Our world tends to offer up many challenges when you are more sensitive, and one of them is dealing with people that are not showing their true selves. When an empathetic person meets someone who is not sincere, they stumble over their words or can get to the point where they cannot utter another word.
Empathic people see straight through a fake person and alarm bells start ringing when they encounter one. They know that these fake people are not necessarily bad or evil, but they do know that this person still needs a lot of ‘work.’
Some common situations with people that quickly exhaust you as a sensitive person:
- Someone who pretends to be easygoing and accommodating to get everyone on their side.
- Someone who hides his anger and comes across as a kind person.
- Someone who feels insecure and vulnerable, but who behaves very tough and hard.
- A person who tries too hard, so it doesn’t seem natural anymore.
- Someone who gives fake compliments in hopes of being accepted.
- Someone who paints a rosier picture so people will like him or her better.
In this situation, sensitive, empathic people often respond as follows:
- Try to avoid these types of people, not because they’ve done something wrong, but because they give you the shivers.
- You just complete a normal sentence; you just keep stuttering. Also, you forget the important details that you really wanted to say.
- You are overcome with a great feeling of discomfort and unease. The longer you are around that individual, the stronger this feeling becomes.
- Literally feel sick when you have been near someone who has drawn all the energy out of you.
- Feel guilty and confused when you could not have a normal and pleasant conversation with this person.
- The tendency to run as fast and as far away as possible!
Meeting with someone who is not real can suck the energy straight out of immensely empathetic people. This does not mean that they hate that individual. They simply cannot cope with some people and situations because they are so highly sensitive. When you are highly sensitive and empathetic, you can do the following things to ensure you don’t get exhausted when you find yourself interacting with fake people.
Do not be afraid to say no.
Often sensitive people find it difficult to say no because they feel like they’re letting the other person down. But remember: if you say no to someone, you’re not a bad person! It just means you can’t please the whole world. Prioritizing allows you to do important tasks first and makes it easier to say no to other things. Use your time and energy wisely; saying no is really not the end of the world!
Follow your heart.
Empathic people often feel like they have to do what others want. They feel responsible for the entire planet and everyone who lives on it. But, even though you have great qualities, you’re not a superhero. So you can’t make everyone happy and that’s why it’s so important to do what you want, to follow your heart. Live your own life and do what makes you happy and you will see that you can also help many people in this way.
Don’t be a people-pleaser.
Making everyone happy sounds ideal, but the reality is that it exhausts you. When you please everyone, you push your needs and desires into the background, which can completely exhaust you. Take care of yourself first, and then you can also take care of others. Because to take care of others, you need energy and positivity!
I hope you found this read helpful. Feel free to reach out to me by leaving a response. Have a great day!
